TALLAHASSEE, Fla. -- "Miss Dorsey," the voice on the other end of the telephone said, "I regret to inform you your son Keeley has passed away."Tammie Dorsey received that call on Jan. 17, 2007, telling her that her 19-year old son, Keeley Dorsey, had died. That was more than two years and seven months ago, but those words remain etched in her memory, just as permanent as her son's name is engraved on the concrete grave marker.
"I remember those words like it was yesterday," Tammie said.
On Saturday, the University of South Florida played Wofford in the Bulls' season opener at Raymond James Stadium in Tampa. This was supposed to be Keeley's senior year.
Ever since Keeley's death during a weightlifting session at the school, no one has worn Dorsey's No. 10 at USF.
That changed with the 40-7 victory by the Bulls. For each game, a USF senior will wear No. 10 in honor of Dorsey.
"It means a lot, especially knowing Keeley would have been graduating with us this year," said senior quarterback Matt Grothe, who named his 7-month old beagle "Keeley's Little Angel" in Keeley's honor. "Knowing Keeley, it's an honor for all of us to wear that jersey and hopefully we can represent it well."
Tammie Dorsey said Thursday she is glad her son is being honored by USF. "I'm OK with it," she said. "I'm pretty excited. I'm not upset, like I thought I would be."
USF defensive tackle Aaron Harris was the first to wear No. 10.
"I think it will be emotional for everyone that wears it," Harris said earlier in the week. "I don't know about added pressure, but it will be more motivation. Just thinking about a guy that's supposed to be playing his last year of football – and he can't."
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Keeley's last year of football was in 2006. He was a freshman running back at USF.
In the 2006 season opener against McNeese State, Keeley took the second carry of his collegiate career up the middle. He then darted to the outside, juked inside -- spinning around a helpless defensive back grasping at air -- and raced down the sideline, completing the 52-yard touchdown run on the game's final play.
"That was his proudest moment," Tammie said.
Keeley's freshman season not only began with a splash, but it also ended it with one.
In USF's final game with the waning seconds ticking off the Legion Field scoreboard at the Papajohns.com Bowl, Keeley grabbed one handle of a cooler full of blue Powerade. He lifted it up and helped douse USF coach Jim Leavitt.
Keeley didn't even get to play one snap in USF's victory, but by his Tigger-like bouncing afterward, there was no way anyone in Birmingham, Ala., that December afternoon in 2006 could have been happier than Keeley.
Less than a month later, Keeley was dead.
The medical examiner ruled he died by natural causes or, specifically, "sudden cardiac death of undetermined etiology." But why he died didn't make it any easier for Tammie to accept.
"Anyone that knew Keeley, you just can't forget him," Tammie said. "I mean, he's in my heart."
Shortly after his death, Tammie got a tattoo on her right thigh. It was the same tattoo that Keeley had on his back: "Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come."
A few months ago, Tammie added another tattoo on her left thigh. This one was of a photo of Keeley wearing his favorite ballcap, the one with his "K" on it and the words "God couldn't wait."
God may not have been able to wait, but Tammie continues to wait. She waits for the day that she's strong enough to replace what was supposed to be the temporary grave marker in the southeast corner of the Southside Cemetery that reads:
KEELEY MAURICE DORSEY
AUG 5 1987 - JAN 17 2007
Her son's grave site hasn't changed much over the years. The yellow plastic flowers still remain -- "Yellow was his favorite color," Tammie said -- along with a plaque with Keeley's "Live one day at a time" motto.
A miniature cement football lies in the grass next to a USF cap that has seen better days. The once-green hat bill and iconic U have been faded gray while baking a couple of years under the Tallahassee sun.
One of these days, Tammie said she will replace the grave marker with a tombstone. Just don't ask her when. She doesn't know.
"I think the reason I haven't done his tombstone is because, in a way, it would make it permanent," Tammie said. "And I don't know if I'm ready to make it that permanent."
How could she ever make it permanent?
Tammie used to wish there was a different way to get to work so she didn't have to drive by the cemetery. She no longer makes daily visits to the cemetery as she did for the first year after Keeley's death. She still does go about twice a month, plus "birthdays, Mother's Day, Christmas, Thanksgiving and the anniversary."
On her visits, Tammie talks to Keeley. She tells him how his older brother Markell and his younger brother Nahriek are doing.
Markell, 25, is a member of the United States Marine Corps stationed in Iraq. Tammie usually only trades E-mails with Markell, but a few months ago she received a call in the middle of the night from Iraq.
Her worst nightmare was happening again: another call about another son.
"Mom," Markell said, "I got shot."
Markell was fine, though. He said he had been shot twice from behind. Once in the shoulder area -- the bullet zipped right through his body. The second bullet lodged in his hip, but was removed by surgery.
Tammie wanted to get more details, but then again she really didn't want to know any more specifics. When your oldest son is a Marine fighting in Iraq, sometimes she thought, it's better not to know everything.
Tammie was initially surprised when Markell joined the Marines last year. Looking back, she thinks he needed to establish his own identity and find his own way. He also needed a way to help deal with losing his brother and best friend despite their four-year age difference.
"They were inseparable," Tammie said. "They were both Leos and loved football. Markell took Keeley's death especially hard.
"Growing up they kept secrets and they kept 'em good. Typical boy stuff you don't want Mom to know: the first girl, the first sneak-out."
Her youngest son, 14-year-old Nahriek wants to follow in Keeley's footsteps and play college football.
"When Keeley died -- I'm trying not to cry -- it also took Markell away," Tammie said. "Markell wasn't around as much. He was distant and it made Nahriek be more by himself. I think he's just now starting to get over it. I think that's why he's really gotten into playing football."
Playing football was what Keeley especially loved. Nobody loved football like Keeley.
When he was seven, he slept with a football every night.
"He still did so even through high school," Tammie said. "He would carry it with him and sit on the couch and just hold that football."
Keeley played at Tallahassee's Lincoln High School. He was a talented quarterback and running back, but an even better teammate.
Former Lincoln coach David Wilson laughs when he remembers Keeley's smile and his persistence. Keeley would constantly badger Wilson at all hours to unlock the equipment shed filled with resistance cords, blocking sleds, weighted vests and other equipment, so Keeley could work on improving his game.
Keeley's persistence eventually wore down Wilson.
"Finally I just got tired of going out to open the thing for him," Wilson said. "I gave him his own key. I told him, 'I know what's in the room, so if anything's missing, you've got to deal with me.' "
Soon after that, Keeley was organizing drills and workouts for 50-60 players on the practice field.
During Keeley's senior year, Wilson had to make a tough decision. He needed Keeley to move from starting quarterback to running back to allow a freshman to play quarterback. Keeley never objected.
That freshman, B.J. Daniels, is now ironically a redshirt freshman quarterback at the University of South Florida.
"Keeley was switched to running back and I started at quarterback," Daniels said. "But Keeley embraced it. It was a weird situation. I was taking his position, but he was always helping me out.
"He was that type of guy, a team player."
Daniels honored Keeley by getting a tattoo on his arm. It's the same tattoo that was on Keeley's back and is on Tammie's right thigh: "Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come."
USF held a team meeting this summer. Usually it's only the seniors who address the team, but Daniels piped up. He knew he wasn't a senior, but he had something to say – and he wanted the entire team to hear what he not only had to say, but needed to say.
"I went up and told them, know what wearing No. 10 represents," Daniels said. "Keeley meant a lot to me.
"He might not have been here long, but he made his impact."




















Reader Comments (Page 1 of 2)
9-06-2009 @ 7:08AM
skjskr said...
Tammie,
Be proud of your sons and your family. You have done a great job. Your children have demonstrate the values that everyone should live by. The saddness of losing one is crushing, but take comfort in the legacy that he has left behind. For all of those with hate in his or her heart, this is a fine family
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9-06-2009 @ 8:53AM
rowemimi said...
Please keep the support coming for your boys....and tell your son I'm also a Marine. Semper Fidelis! If you all need me let me know!
9-06-2009 @ 8:27AM
LINDA said...
You are a very sick and twisted person. How sad it must be to be you...
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9-06-2009 @ 8:30AM
Don said...
Why don't they ever interview the father??
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9-06-2009 @ 10:58AM
boldbigman said...
How do you know if the father is alive smart a$$??? Since you went there I have to see them interview Michael Phelps dad, have you?
9-06-2009 @ 8:33AM
Kelly said...
Between the scam ads and comments such as Phillip's it becomes hard to take these comment boards as anything but junk. This is a story about a talented young man who was and is loved and respected. If you want to think something stupid think it, you don't have to write it. As for the scam-I am planning on leaving AOL as it has become nothing but scam, spam and junk. When a good story is written it is too often spoiled.
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9-06-2009 @ 8:40AM
nickcherryl said...
Where is the father in this picture?????
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9-06-2009 @ 9:09AM
natasweet31 said...
Have you ever heard the word divorce, or separation, or maybe single mom.
9-07-2009 @ 10:49AM
ricfaydon said...
where is your mother silly BOY?
9-06-2009 @ 8:42AM
jazzbenzo said...
I understand your lost. It was so very hard to let go and let God do his thing for me as well . Your son keeley is fine. Take care of yourself Keeley still love's you and he would not want you to be worried about him. He is at perfect rest, peace,and love. P.S just reading about you take me back and I feel you pain, so I am saying "Let go and Let GOD"!
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9-06-2009 @ 8:45AM
James said...
I guess that just goes to show you that anonymity is a powerful thing, to be able to sit in the privacy of your own home tucked away in the corner you can make assinine comments just like [#4 Phillip] did and there's nothing that can be done about it...but just like [#5 Linda] said, it has to be sad being him....Well put dear.
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9-06-2009 @ 8:59AM
rowemimi said...
We take care of our own, ya now!
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9-06-2009 @ 9:05AM
natasweet31 said...
You are a racist .....you must be a lonely bitter person. It's sad when we downplay someone even during a sad moment over the death of her child. I feel sorry for you.
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9-06-2009 @ 9:29AM
rachelvis1 said...
EVERYBODY ON THIS COMMENT BOARD, LETS REPORT ALL THESE PEOPLE WHO ARE TRYING TO SELL ITEMS OR SCAM US, THIS IS A COMMENT BOARD, NOT THE CRAIGS LISTING. SO IF WE ALL REPORT THEM, MAYBE AOL WILL DO SOMETHING, IF AOL DOESN'T DO SOMETHING THAN THESE BOARDS WILL BE NOTHING BUT A MESS, THEY ALLREADY ARE BUT JUST CLICK ON REPORT AND IF ENOUGH OF US DO, MAYBE AOL WILL GET OFF THEIR ASS AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS CRAP. AND TO THE MOTHER WHO LOSS HER SON, MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU, LIKE I'VE ALWAYS HEARD AND I BELIEVE THIS TO THAT NO PARENT SHOULD HAVE TO BURY THEIR CHILD. GOD IS WITH YOU AND WILL COMFORT YOU, ALLOW HIM TO TAKE OVER AND GOD WILL BRING YOU PEACE.
US ARMY VETERAN
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9-06-2009 @ 9:30AM
James said...
I guess that just goes to show you that anonymity is a powerful thing, to be able to sit in the privacy of your own home tucked away in the corner you can make assinine comments just like [#4 Phillip] and [#20 Blueticklam] did and there's nothing that can be done about it...but just like [#5 Linda] said, it has to be sad being him....Well, in this case...Them. Well put dear.
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9-06-2009 @ 9:35AM
Helen said...
She should have put those tattoos somewhere else on her body. Especially the one with him wearing his favorite hat. To close for comfort.
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9-06-2009 @ 10:02AM
tyalove said...
What difference does it make as to "where the father is?" The point here is that a woman has lost a son that was well-loved and is sadly missed by all that knew him regardless of having his father there or not. If anything, we should be celebratory in the fact that this "single mother" had\has nurtured not only one, but two productive citizens in a society where by some, assume this to be unattainable. I do find it a little odd to have ones thighs tattooed to commemorate a loved one, but to each his\her own.
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9-06-2009 @ 10:23AM
lajollared said...
"Miss Dorsey," the voice on the other end of the telephone said, "I regret to inform you your son Keeley has passed away-------WHY WOULD ANYONE INFORM SOMEONE THEIR SON HAD DIED BY PHONE. I AM SURE THEY KNEW HER ADDRESS. SOME THINGS SHOULD NEVER BE DONE BY PHONE. TO GIVE NOTICE TO THE NEXT OF KIN IS ONE.
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9-06-2009 @ 11:00AM
terra said...
Some of the people on here are sad. How does one find racism in such a sad siutation. It doesn't matter what race, loosing a son is hard. Is this where ignorant no life cowards communicate because they have no friends, goals, or talents. Bless you and your sons.
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9-06-2009 @ 11:17AM
Khelama said...
Well said Kelly. I am leaving AOL too and asking a lot of friends and family to come with me. This place has become a sewer of hate and evil unparalleled in time. These people are proof that not everyone in a human body are human beings. And they probably think of that as a complement. Hell walks the earth in its final judgment in some of humanity. There is a reckoning coming. My prayers are with this grieving mother, I too lost an athletic son in the prime of his life. The pain is indescribable and never goes away.
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